Years ago, I was on the digital advisory board of a large newspaper company. We had four meetings per year, after which, we’d go for a board dinner. At one of these dinners, during a discussion about something or other, the Chair of the Board turned to me and said with great confidence, “You have a problem with authority”.

I have no recollection of what I said to prompt his comment, but I do remember having a moment of clarity. He was right. …


Sharon likes to vent. She works in a high-pressure job where deadlines are critical, and quality is imperative. And yet, it seems that her managers are determined to confound her progress at every turn.

This drives Sharon nuts.

And she likes to vent about it. She vents to her employees. She vents to her friends and family. She lets everyone know how annoyed she is. Everyone that is, but the managers making her life difficult.

The company where Kyle works is launching a major product… someday. Someday soon. Senior management has been assuring him and his coworkers of that for…


Pam knows exactly how things should be done. She also knows how her employees should act and how they should think. Truth be told, she even knows how they should feel, but she doesn’t usually talk about that.

When her team doesn’t do, act, think and feel as she believes they should, she tries to set them straight. After all, if they don’t comply, chaos will ensue. Work won’t get done. Quality will drop and team cohesiveness will suffer.

She’s the boss. She has the title and the big office. …


On Sunday evenings, Clara likes to get herself organized for the week ahead. She reviews her to-do list, consults her calendar and preps for upcoming meetings and strategic decisions. Often, this work will result in questions or tasks for her team. In the interest of clearing her mind so she can enjoy the last hours of her weekend, Clara pounds out about a dozen or so emails before settling down with a glass of wine and whatever’s hot on Netflix this week. …


When I was little, my kindergarten class took a field trip to a dairy farm where each of us took turns milking a real live cow. Rather than clamoring for my turn as my classmates did, I stood back, politely waiting to be called on. By the time I got to the cow (I was last), there was no milk left.

I was not happy. So much so, I now believe those few minutes in a cold, smelly barn kicked off a lifetime of almost pathological impatience.

Do it now. Say it now. If it can’t happen now, when can…


I don’t know about you, but I freaking looooooove being right.

It’s so satisfying.

So confirming.

So very, very ego boosting.

Wait. Is that a good thing?

Perhaps not.

The most damaging thing about the ego is how it limits us. It focusses on the appearance of things rather than the truth and possibility of things. It will have us seeking confirmation and asking for input only from those who already agree with us. It will stifle our creativity. It will keep us on the safe side of controversy. …


Victor lost his job nine months ago. After a couple of weeks of denial, anger, etc., he reached out to his network. There weren’t any offers of employment, but there were a few offers of contract work. Victor quickly realized that he has a skillset that many companies need but can’t afford full time. After six months of consulting, Victor sensed an opportunity and took a massive leap — he turned down a long-awaited job offer in favour of opening his own consulting business. The decision was terrifying. The knowledge the he and he alone is now responsible for generating…


When I was in the first grade, my music teacher picked me to play the little princess in our annual class play. The next year, she chose me to play a different princess in a different play. In both cases, the princess didn’t have any lines. She either stood in the centre of a semi-circle while the other children sang about her life, or she pantomimed the story of her life as read by a narrator.

My mother loooooooved the fact that I was chosen to be the princess two years running. Both years, she spent hours painstakingly making my…


It all starts with what we believe is a temporary downturn. Say, there’s a global pandemic that has shut down large sectors of the economy. Or maybe our nation is (Br)exiting a trade agreement that has defined its economics for the past thirty or so years. Or say our customers have become erroneously enamoured of a shiny new, yet (we believe) inferior, market entrant.

No one panics because we can fix the issue in the long-term. Meanwhile, in the short-term, we decrease our sales targets. Or put off that launch date. …


After five years of working together, Sheldon’s boss has moved on to greener pastures. His new boss hasn’t even been selected yet, but he’s seriously freaked. “What if I don’t like them?” he complains to anyone who will listen. “What if they don’t like me? What if they’re some kind of control freak who wants to tell me how to do my job? What if they have totally different expectations than my old boss had? What if they want to bring in their own team and we all get fired?”

Few things are more stressful in a career than the…

Judy Sims

Coach. Trainer. Talent Accelerator. Author of The Unstuck Leader https://judysims.com

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